Have you ever felt that even if it was your intention to be more positive and grateful in life, those negative thoughts have a way of sneaking in? Whether it's ruminating on a past disappointments, or getting down on yourself for not having it all “together,” whether imposter syndrome is barging in, or there’s just a nagging sense of the unknown, you’re not alone. We live in stressful times. So today I want to give you 6 ways to reset your mind, and get back to a greater sense of control in your life.
First thing though, is I’m not big on "controlling" (or suppressing) thoughts or emotions. This is because they offer valuable information that’s informing us where we’re at. Instead, consider seeing what clues they are presenting. And then, with that awareness... here are some ways to reboot your system, and realign with what’s important to YOU.
Be on the lookout for anytime you say, “I should..." Saying this to yourself is actually a the voice of judgement. You are literally putting yourself down, and we are all so used to doing this. A better approach is to catch yourself using that work, and replace that with the voice of Self-Compassion. That is much kinder and more motivating. Then sprinkle in some action, and you are really opening things up.
Example: I should work out every day.
Change that to
“I’ll try my best to work out every day. Here’s one thing I can do…”
Example: “I should stop thinking this way.” That’s not very kind to yourself, and will only makes you more anxious that you’re feeling anxious. Being anxious about being anxious is how rumination happens. We get stuck in a loop.
A better option is to change that to, “I see that I’m having some anxious thoughts right now. What would I tell my best friend if she were in this exact situation? Move from judgment to self-compassion… it's liberating.
Think of your everyday-self asking your future WISE self for advice. Here are some questions to get started:
It could be one friend that your check in on, and they do the same for you. It could be a counselor to help you navigate your way through. It could be some volunteer work where you remind yourself that you can get out of your own head and help others. You have more options than you may think. It’s the overthinking that is the trap. Ask yourself “Am I overthinking this?” If you suspect that it may be a yes, you’ve already interrupted the pattern and are in the process of setting yourself free.
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