Have you ever come to a realization that the path you were on was no longer working for you, and that you were changing but your life had not yet caught up? Kyle Cease, New York Times bestselling author and renown comedian, shares insights and AHAs that can change your perspective on money, success and authentic happiness for good!
Instead of letting the pursuit of money and the scarcity mentality suck you into a vortex of never-enoughness, Kyle’s new book, The Illusion of Money can help you replace old beliefs with new clarity, and an unshakable sense of freedom.
Kyle Cease is a transformational comedian; he’s made more than 100 TV and movie appearances and has earned the #1 ranking on Comedy Central’s Stand-Up Showdown, but after 25 years of achieving what he thought were his dreams, he discovered that not only were they a lie, they were soul-crushing…and something new was emerging and could not be denied.
And the day came when...
Our phones open the doors to a myriad of communication, convenience, and connection, and that’s all great, but have you ever considered how all-consuming our reliance on our devices really is?
Are we literally addicted? Common Sense media says kids 8-12 spend an average of 6 hours on their screens. Teens are up to 9 hours per day. One study suggests that teens who spend 5+ hours/day on screens are 2x as likely to say they’re unhappy. Adults average around 3 hours and 35 minutes.
OK, so most of us don't want to be without our devices, even while we know that they are taking over some aspects of life. What can we do?
Tiffany Shlain, who I spoke with recently, about her groundbreaking book called 25/6: The Power of Unplugging One Day a Week, has some important suggestions for humans of every age.
Extreme stress, can be caused by several things like:
All of these can trigger the fight-or-flight response where bursts of chemicals carrying information and energy are released. Today we’ll talk aspects of anxiety that you might not be aware of.
1. You Have Six Seconds to Reverse an Emotion!
Emotions are neurohormones; they flow through the brain and body carrying messages with information that makes us hyper-alert mentally, and energy that prepares our bodies to deal with the situation or perceived threat. Whenever an emotion comes up, and it could be anxiety, anger, fear, etc, there is a burst of these chemicals that lasts 6 seconds - that’s the timeframe between when they are produced...
Have you ever had a sense that something was off, that things we not quite right? It could be in a relationship, a work situation, or a nagging feeling about your finances or your health. If it’s not staring us in the face, we tend to look the other way; after all there are so many other things that need our attention. Either it's too scary to face the unknown, or we don’t want to leave our comfort zone, even if we know that it is not helping us grow… but it’s hard to break old habits. In actuality, our brains and neural pathways are shaped by old habits or limiting beliefs, and that tends to be what we default to. Many people are a prisoner of their unconscious habits, and it’s all across the board.
Most of us think we have all the time in the world. If we can’t get to something today, there's always tomorrow. There’s a good reason for this; at the end of the day, you have to say the day is done, tomorrow is another day, which is all true. However, here’s an invitation: what if you could wake up each morning, not with a sigh, but with anticipation. I wonder what the day will bring. What can I be excited about, what could I do to surprise myself or someone else, to feel more alive? So let's talk about why this moment is your point of power.
Making the most of this moment: What if you looked at the day as a launch pad to how you want to show up in your life? We create our tomorrows by how we think today. We create our next moment by the choices we make right now.
Here’s a question: If your brain was a room, how much of that space would be occupied by the past? "I wish, I should have,...
We all feel it from time to time: stress, overwhelm, disappointment, confusion, feeling upset. There are times when it passes quickly and times when it can feel like a dark cloud that never lifts.
The temptation, of course, is to muscle through it – keep calm and carry on, but that can sometimes just bury the feelings and then they emerge sideways or upside down or in ways we would never expect. OR we turn to numbing behaviors to self-soothe – like binges of any kinds from Netflix to shopping to exercise to substances; it’s across the board. If we are self aware, and we know our favorite distractions, we are ahead of the game.
What if I told you there was another way, and it was available to you 24/7, cost nothing and did not take much time. Sounds good? From our friends at the Greater Good Science Center, it is called taking a self-compassion break.
Why does this work? With our negativity bias, we tend to notice the negative aspects more than the...
In the light of the recent tragedies and shootings, I want to give this topic context. Forgiveness is not to say that bad things are OK, that you have to forgive and forget. There are certainly events that you won’t be able to forget and which may even shape who you are. Today we are talking about real ways to move forward, and why.
There are many good reasons to feel angry, sad or betrayed. Maybe your parents were wounded and inadvertently passed that on, maybe a relationship has gone bad, maybe you had to deal with a traumatic event. In her Ted Talk, Sarah Montana was in her teens when experienced her brother and mother killed by a friend’s younger brother. When she was dealing with the aftermath years later she realized, “The steel tether of trauma was still hooked in, and I was dragging him around for 7 years – the only way to get rid of him was to forgive him.” It sounds easy, but how do you do it?
If you’re human, you will have experienced disappointment at some point, and there are so many reasons why: you could have been hoping to get a specific job, you could have been fired from an old one; you could be hoping for a new relationship to take off, or be dealing with bumps in the road in an existing one; you or someone you love could have a health diagnosis. Or it could be as simple as a new pair of shoes you were obsessing about were not available in your size. This is all a part of life.
Why do we feel this way? Simply our expectation was not met. We had a picture of something and it didn’t happen that way. Life happens. Here are two ways many people dealing with disappointment:
Studies show that most people spend 2 hours a day spending time worrying about relationships, finances, health etc., but 85–90% of things people worry about do not come true. For example: you may have an argument with your significant other, but you don’t break up. You may have not done as well as you would like on a presentation, but you are not fired. Mark Twain says “I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened." So let's discuss this worry beast...
Firstly, there is a difference between fear, worry and anxiety, and when we can "name it to tame it" we can often take some of it's power away and come up with a plan. I speak in depth about this in my new book – Emotional Advantage: Embracing All You Feelings to Create a Life You Love. (PS - if you live outside of the US - you can still buy the book and get free shipping from www.bookdepository.com!)
The Difference Between Fear, Worry and Anxiety
Do you ever feel like every part of you wants to move forward, break out of a rut. Like you’re tired of the same old, same old. You may even be bored with yourself!! Then there are those feelings of being sorry for yourself – "what’s wrong with me," "everyone else is getting ahead," "it’s embarrassing, what am I doing wrong?" You’re not doing anything wrong – you just need a fresh perspective and to try something new. Today we’re talking about 5 ways to bust out of that rut.
1. What’s the opposite of what you want? Part of it may be that you don’t have a clear direction. First this is not a bad thing. It means that you are percolating - making the space for something new. You may not know what that is yet and that’s OK. So let’s start with how you don’t want to live because that may be easier to access. For example:
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